In The Name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful
‘Look at that guy, he is so _______. I wonder if he likes me…I wonder if he would be my husband…’
I’m sure that most sisters would have experience this, even if we are unwilling. This whispers are seriously so annoying! But don’t worry, Allah Almighty is with us and He knows EVERTHING.
A sister once shared something that she had learnt with me:
“Shaithaan is very smart, but we must be smarter.”
This means that if shaithaan whispers something to us, we must try our best to counter them with our own excuses on why we wouldn’t listen to him.
For example, you want to wake up for tahajjud.
Shaithaan: It only sunnah. You don’t have to do it. Your bed is soo soft and comfy….
You: It is sunnah, therefore I should do it to get closer to Allah Almighty and also to increase my blessings.
Shaithaan: Sleep. You’ll be tired the next day and won’t be able to concentrate in school..
You: I’ll just do two rakaahs, it’ll only take two minutes!
Shaithaan: You need your sleep. even two minutes counts..
You: InshaAllah, He will help me. I seek refuge with Allah from Syaithaan the accursed!
So, if Shaithaan whispers to you,” Hey, look at that guy. He is _____I think he likes you. Flirt with him..”
If the ______ is filled with hot(not religious), you counter it with:
If his physical appearance is hot according to you, chances are he will appear hot to other girls too. If he is not religious……..chances are that he would have done wrong and sinful things. Say “Am I worth such a guy? Allah Almighty has raised my status by making me a Muslimah. Am I going to drag myself down by allowing Shaithaan to rule my soul? Absolutely not!”
If the _____ is filled with religious, you counter it with:
“1) I would render upon myself Allah’s wrath
2) He won’t listen to my flirtations.
3) If Shaithaan managed to convince him to listen to my flirtations, I would be dragging him down, lowering his status in Allah’s sight as a religious person. If I really love him, I would not do this to him. I would bear both my sins and his sins!”
Shaithaan: But you look perfect together!
You: Who am I to think that? Allah Almighty knows best. He knows what is in my heart and what is in his. If we were meant for each other, Allah will work it all out without any sins involved.How? Only he knows, He is Al-Hakeem(The Most Wise) and Al-A’leem(The All-Knowing).
Correct your intention for being where you are, whether it is to study, share, worship or even to eat; but i’m sure none of us Muslimahs, save a few, go anywhere with the sole intention of flirting right?
Most importantly, everytime Syaithaan starts whispering, you start praying. Seek refuge in Allah from Syaithaan the accursed.
Allah Almighty said:
“And if there comes to you from Satan an evil suggestion, then seek refuge in Allah . Indeed, He is the Hearing, the Knowing.”
Surah Fussilat, verse 36