Majlis Ugama Islam Singapura
7 June 2013 / 28 Rejab 1434
Commemorating Isra’ Mi’raj-
Lessons from the Story of Rasulullah’s Marriage
Dear Jemaah blessed by Allah,
On this Friday filled with Allah’s blessings, let us recall a very important event which is of great significance to our beloved Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. Hopefully, by doing so it will help us to increase our taqwa, enable us to continue abide by Allah’s commands and leave behind what He has prohibited upon us.
This event is indeed an honour that was given to Rasulullah s.a.w., and also an honour for us, the ummah of Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. The important event that I am referring to is the event of Isra’ and Mi’raj. In this this event of the Mi’raj, Rasulullah s.a.w. was given the command for his followers to perform the five daily prayers, and it was then that the Prophet witnessed the signs of Allah’s might, and Rasulullah s.a.w was also given a description of the dwellers of Paradise, and those who were thrown in Hellfire. Eventually, Jibril a.s. brought the Prophet to meet with Allah ‘Azza Wa Jalla, The Creator, at Sidratil Muntaha, The story of Rasulullah’s Mi’raj was aesthetically described through the words of Allah in Surah An-Najm, verses 10-18:
#3Which means: “So did (Allah) convey the inspiration to His Servant- (conveyed) what He (meant) to convey. The (Prophet’s) (mind and) heart in no way falsified that which He saw. Will ye then dispute with Him concerning what He saw? For indeed He saw Him at a second descent, near the tree beyond which none may pass. Near it is the Garden of abode. Behold, the tree was shrouded (in Mystery unspeakable!). (His) sight never swerved, nor did it go wrong! For truly did He see, of the Signs of His Lord, the Greatest!
My dear brothers,
If we trace back the sequence of historical events before the Night of Isra’ and Mi’raj, we will realise that it was a time of great sadness for Rasulullah s.a.w. In fact, in the sirah it is known as the ‘Year of Sorrow’, because it was the year that Rasulullah s.a.w. had lost two individuals that he loved very dearly, two people who stood by him and supported him throughout his mission. One of them was his wife, Khadijah r.a.
Thus, some scholars are of the opinion that one of the reasons behind the Isra’ and Mi’raj was to cheer up the Prophet, who was filled with sadness on the loss of his loved ones.
Has it dawned upon you the deep impact of losing his wife, Khadijah r.a., that Rasulullah s.a.w. felt, that he had to be motivated by Allah with an important event like Isra’ and Mi’raj?
Who was Khadijah and why did her passing leave such a deep impact on Rasulullah s.a.w., a man who was very strong and patient.
Let us reflect upon the words of Rasulullah s.a.w himself about his beloved wife, which means: “She accepted me when people rejected me, she believed in me when people doubted me, she shared her wealth with me when people deprived me, and Allah granted me children only through”. [Musnad Ahmad]
Indeed, this was the woman who had comforted Rasulullah s.a.w., when he was trembling, in a state of trepidation and wrapped in a blanket, after he first met the angel Jibril in his true form, in a cave called Hira’.
It was her wisdom that motivated Khadijah to bring the Prophet s.a.w. to meet and consult her uncle – Waraqah Bin Naufal, a Christian monk, who helped to explain the event that took place in the cave. Khadijah’s optimism and her competency in handling the situation helped to build Rasulullah’s confidence and eliminate his worries and fears.
Khadijah’s sacrifice toward Rasulullah s.aw. is unmatched. She dedicated all her energy and her wealth to support the Prophet in his mission to spread the teachings of Islam and call people to believe in the Oneness of God. She did so without ever whining or complaining about it. She was his wife, companion and protector.
From the story that I have shared earlier, there are two main lessons which we can draw upon:
First, to build a happy family that will be with us in Paradise
We have all heard about the how the Prophet s.a.w. met with Allah s.w.t. in the event of Mi’raj, as recorded in the Quran. As his ummah, the only opportunity for us to meet with Allah is in Paradise, or Jannah. And this joyful experience can only be attained by those who are firm believers and are pious (taqwa).
As Muslims, we dream and hope to be placed in Allah’s Paradise. Not just for ourselves, but also for our wives, children, parents and relatives to enjoy this wonderful gift from Allah. In fact, it should be our ultimate goal. Let us reflect upon Allah’s words in the Quran, in surah At-Thur, verse 21:
Which means: “And those who believed and whose descendants followed them in faith – We will join with them their descendants, and We will not deprive them of anything of their deeds. Every person, for what he earned, is retained.” [At-Thur: 21]
Second, the importance of choosing a spouse who is pious (taqwa)
Attaining our goal of being placed in Allah’s Paradise is not something easy for us and our family.
It is not something which we can easily achieve. In fact, to ensure that our children are among those who are pious and God-conscious, it is not the sole responsibility of the husband or wife alone. It is the responsibility and duty of both the husband and wife to educate the family to be on the righteous path.
This process should begin even before we get married. It is our responsibility to seek knowledge and equip ourselves with religious knowledge. And it is also of no less importance to choose a spouse that can help us in bringing up and educating our children. The importance of this was also underscored by Rasulullah s.a.w. and his wife, Khadijah r.a.
May Allah grant us a blessed and happy marriage. May we be blessed with companions like Khadijah r.a. and may we become husbands who emulate Rasulullah s.a.w., and be given righteous children, like theirs. Amin